Why is forbidden love so tempting

But, Badiou argues In Praise of Love , you cannot love them. For love is not about having. Love is giving. I suggest we meet up. Bit of background at this point. Too close, perhaps. Anyways, I finish dinner and head out. We meet. I am too, a bit. And the confession happens. He tells me he loves me. He gets very touchy-feely. He holds my hand. Then he nuzzles into my neck. In that instant all the instants before coalesce; I want him so badly.

I want to kiss him — he wants to kiss me. I didn't mean to attack this kind of dating, sometimes it actually works, especially if the guy is wise enough to propose after having done his research based on personality criteria and not looks and the gurl has done her research again based on personality and not fiances -if u know wot i mean ;- - For all he knows the gurl hes currently dating might be totally right for him and hes just torturing himself by looking around.

If all his attempts fail or if he feels that this person is not compatible with his own criteria, he could break his engagement cold heartedly but only if he was going to anyways. As in he should leave the other gurl out of the equation.

Chances are, he knows even less about the other girl but i could be totally mistaken. Finally my golden advice that I always suggest to all guys is to treat the person they are dating the way they would want their sisters to be treated unless they r pigs who could care less about their sisters in the first place.

I personally reach peace with all of my dilemmas after doing -Isthkara- which is a prayer that muslims do when in doubt. Depending on his religious status, seeking advice from God wouldn't hurt. Meeting in thought may have worse consequences than anything else coz God knows of the scenarios our minds could sew. But just out of curiosity why did ur friend go with the traditional path if hes into some one else??? Okay sure! It is more of a general wondering than a comment.

A very close friend of mine is engaged in more or less the traditional way you described and the semi-blind dating is ongoing with little revealed to either. He is currently in a huge crush on a girl and honestly thinking it can go somewhere. He is wondering if he should pursue that? I have been reluctant to give advice; however, I believe that a potential lost love is a definite lost life!

Interesting comments Alfred But u said 'some' of my comments First off, no matter how well-worded a definition of love is, anyone who has never been in love will never ever understand the words of that definition. Second, my opinion about love is that the word commitment does not belong in the definition.

While being in love is more than being friends, it is evident that generally you don't feel committed to your friends [because you get to choose 'em]. Add to that, the currency of love - intimacy and the its glue - care! Thank you so much M. I guess it's about time 4 me to take advantage of my journal. After so long I have decided to let myself off the hook, just cause I journal in this manner doesn't mean that im a schizo, or maybe it does. I guess I couldn't care less anymore I love that you've included parts from your journal and made it personal.

Keep up the good work! Yes it is difficult to stop yourself from having wrong desires but you have to do it and this is the real test of life. Hey Jasper, I didn't mean 4 it to be informative, basically used my journal and a psychology book but im glad u think so True, for one type of emotion to exist and be experiential the opposite emotion must unfortunately or fortunately also exist and be experiential.

But they shouldn't be experienced together or should they? Besides, why does one's pain from a broken heart lasts a lot longer and beats a lot louder than one's pleasure? It amazes me how one's heart or brain could spin so hard that it triggers emotions from vain.

Creating the illusion of loss when there was nothing to loose in the first place. Usually with forbidden love you end up with painful yet seducing pleasure since NOT a single date, not a single song, not a single kiss, not a single poem, not a single walk took place that could possibly lead to the persistence of painful pleasure.

Micheal Thanks 4 proving that this kind of dilemma is based on psychological roots Tht's why I always advocate for following logic rather than the heart's desires I end up being harsh but oh well its better than getting hurt or even worse, hurting others. It is very true that for many people that which is forbidden is more attractive, more exciting and desirable.

This phenomena too has its roots in psychology or more accurately, human nature. It is called Scarcity. When something is scarce, with the right marketing, it can become even more desirable than it was previously.

This is very true when you see something that you probably shouldn't have, but you want it anyway. You are correct, that your values, morals and even commonsense go out the window. How funny life is. The term was suggested by a female psychologist called Tennov in I am not sure what language it is.

I am not sure if forbidden love excludes other kinds of love but I sure hope that one gets the same type of intensive emotions when falling for the not forbidden person ;-.

Limerence is not a word I understand or have heard of before. I wonder what language it is? The hub is quite interesting and I enjoyed reading it.

Does the term forbidden love exclude other kinds of love, I wonder? Personal Finance. Welcome to HubPages. Related Articles. By Nian. United States Politics. By Jason B Truth. By Karl Magi. By A B Williams. By Dan Martino. By Rodric Anthony Johnson. If you look at all of the great stories that have been told throughout human history, many of them have involved forbidden love.

Romeo and Juliet, considered one of the greatest tragedies ever told, is all about the forbidden love between members of warring families. There are many accounts of the love between Lancelot and Guinevere and so many more. What is it about forbidden love that makes it so enticing? What leads someone to risk everything to get involved with an individual that logic dictates would be inappropriate for them?

These are questions that we shall endeavor to answer in this article. One of the most common reasons a person may be drawn to forbidden love is a fear of abandonment or commitment. If you find yourself drawn to situations of forgiven love in this context time and time again, it may be time to explore any potential underlying fears.

A love that is considered to be safe can also be the most boring. Your families had the same amount of money, and you had equal social standing. The match between the two of you was considered appropriate in every way, and it was thought to be a foregone conclusion that the two of you would be married someday.

Your parents approved, and it was all arranged from the first moment you drew breath. For some people, however, this sparks curiosity. What, you might wonder, are the possible alternate realities? We use cookies to keep your user preferences and actions, in order to assist and optimize your overall experience of using our Site. These are known as strictly necessary cookies. These cookies include any actions which affect the way you experience the Site.

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